We don't know what E will be when he grows up. We don't know if he will decide to go to college, or a trade school, or end his education after high school. We don't know if he'll get married or have children or be attracted to boys or girls or both.  Because of that, I try not to have expectations for his future.  I know so little about him, how can I choose a future for him?  I'd much rather let him show me where he belongs as he grows up.